life sucks!!!

although the new year did not start with a bang, but today I thought was going to be a good day... my portfolio was up almost $30K on the day, definitely one of the best days so far. and then came a call from one of my best friends, by the time the call is finished, the market has tanked, and my day's gain has been reduced to less than $10K...and I am upset as hell. kGl~GOB a  
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It is not the money, I have seen money come ang gone, I am talking about ... well, you know what is on my mind, woman and marriage! lnjXDoVb<  
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I will continue the ranting later.

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引用第22楼scubadiver于01-03-2007 23:41发表的“”: %V7at7>o  
it is not due to money, but it has serious money consequences.

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About your "floating" investment, let it be. Do remember that money is supposed to turn your life better, do not be the slave of money. Otherwise, even you become trillionaire, you do not feel happy. Those you did not get are those supposed to be not yours, obtained unnaturally, you got troubles elsewhere. H* PSR  
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People all know that money can't bring happy marriage, but also should know that without money, no happy marriage neither. I believe that to handle these issues needs not only the wisdom, but also some artistic insight, because neither of these are the pure problems of itself, they are complex, interdependent, mixtured. In addition, there is no universal solution, you have to find the only exclusive and tailor-made way for yourself. 3ca (i/c  
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Anyway, Good Luck !

it is not due to money, but it has serious money consequences.

听起来，就是钱惹的祸。 rC^WPW  
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不说了，再说就不好听了。。。

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引用第7楼scubadiver于01-03-2007 18:01发表的“”: iP ->S\  
On the surface it seems like a happy marriage. ... G[uK-U  
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now my friend is worried about his marriage and his money. .......

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You got it exactly right! "On the surface it seems like a happy marriage". You don't know the real picture of their married life. n FHUy9q  
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Legendary love does not necessarily mean a happy marriage. Getting a lot of money and owning season concert pass to concert does not necessarily mean the man is a good husband. Does he know what his wife really wants? You should advice him to read 66's "我为花痴——那一段情愫". He will know much more about women. UGV+/zxIM  
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By the way, why is he worried about his marriage and his money? Is he concerned about splitting money with his wife after divorce?

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引用第17楼六六于01-03-2007 22:34发表的“”: IL#"~D?
  
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泥这不素臭我吗,我难道就不能拽几句?写文章,无论用哪种语言,关键在于思想.有内容就行,其他可以忽略不计.

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Ha! Ha! You both are quite lovely!

Then it's a supporting issue. You may need to remind your friend to be a nice supporter for ;PF<y9M  
a beginner. It doesn't matter how much money a wife earns, it's the pride she feels she $]/{[@5  
is being independent and gets her foot into a position in the society. She starts to have -A^_{4X  
self-confidence. A mature man should respect and support his wife and cheerfully volunteer O`IQ(,yef  
the house work to offload her.   Agree?

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引用第14楼卡拉于01-03-2007 21:46发表的“”: ?Jm^<  
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老六，这英文是你写的吗？你英文进步贼快。

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泥这不素臭我吗,我难道就不能拽几句?写文章,无论用哪种语言,关键在于思想.有内容就行,其他可以忽略不计.

actually, I think the issue might be the difficulty in handling changes. a woman goes to work and start to make some money, or gets a promotion, or with some coworker's seduction, and the balance in family is broke. all the sudden the outside life seems more tempting...

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引用第13楼六六于01-03-2007 20:11发表的“”: >y7?-*0  
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I don't agree with your views on this part. The process of life is like the sea: men come and go; tides rise and fall. Don't say to give up while you are in the low spirit. `Y$4 H,8L  
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Now I realize that any marriage will be always meeting its affair just like in the movie there are cars always crashing into each other.Coz we are human being,not a machine,we have difficulty in controlling our life as it can be.Even a machine needs maintaining constantly. N#_H6TfMG  
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Not quite sure which part you don't agree upon. What I see from the current .W%)*&WH\  
situation Diver's friend stands may have a rooted cause, and I have the doubt that $bR~+C  
the roots might have been implanted when the first time they went on different roads m=:9+z  
and said good-bye to each other.   It might be their types, it might be that they Rr]Hy^w  
couldn't get along with the other's family, it might be they did not really love each other 0Th&iA4  
so much as they thought. As to few years later, they chose to continue and finally got By!o3}~g  
married, they did not really put every effort to narrow the difference, or they could not k 1~&x$G  
do too much to narrow the difference. Czu 9o;xr  
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the one who has been devoted himself or herself to you and the family, no one can CY5Z{qiX  
be perfect, and he or she deserves your waiting for the full bloom of the love flower. A|4[vz9>H  
This distinguishes the success and failure of the marriage. Nevertheless, the devotion lTgjq:mn  
should be recognized by your loved one, if you are devoting in the wrong way, or S9y}  
your devotion never gets appreciated, who's fault is it?   Identified the problem and ""G'rN_=Bi  
correct it in the right way is the key.   Love can be said with heart or without heart, K;G~V\  
only your loved one can tell and feel. If one has done his/her best but still gets the U?Zq6_M&  
opposite result, it's the word "type" that really rips into them.

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引用第13楼六六于01-03-2007 20:11发表的“”: 8OU\V5i[,q  
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I don't agree with your views on this part. The process of life is like the sea: men come and go; tides rise and fall. Don't say to give up while you are in the low spirit. LU%E:i|  
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Now I realize that any marriage will be always meeting its affair just like in the movie there are cars always crashing into each other.Coz we are human being,not a machine,we have difficulty in controlling our life as it can be.Even a machine needs maintaining constantly. }&J q}j  
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老六，这英文是你写的吗？你英文进步贼快。

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引用第10楼Ling1984于01-03-2007 18:22发表的“”: gjDHo$  
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If something did not start right at the beginning, it should have some rooted reason 9WyhZoPD*  
behind, even when both of them chose to continue a few years later, the first E ~<J C"]  
indulgent mismatch might still exist and would not disolve by itself unless they @*((
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I don't agree with your views on this part. The process of life is like the sea: men come and go; tides rise and fall. Don't say to give up while you are in the low spirit. 8<Av@9 *}  
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Now I realize that any marriage will be always meeting its affair just like in the movie there are cars always crashing into each other.Coz we are human being,not a machine,we have difficulty in controlling our life as it can be.Even a machine needs maintaining constantly. ukyZes8o K  
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In the face of difficulties,some often give up half way; others persist in their doings. Be cautious and patient. Cherish the past and wait till the flower of love is in full bloom again.

把婚姻做另一种投资也是不错的，其技术含量不在股市投资之下，而衡量的尺度却只有双方心中的一本帐，算法还没有通行标准。 UP,c|  
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常常提醒自己攒上点以备急需。人多数是念旧的，不到银行倒闭的时候，怎么会轻易换户头？

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引用第9楼小平于01-03-2007 18:11发表的“”: $[ *w"iQ  
30K to 10K　就SUCKS了，我那个都没词儿形容了。

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小猫见大猫了。

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引用第7楼scubadiver于01-03-2007 18:01发表的“”: t_1LL >R  
I am not a materialistic person, but like most of people living on this planet, nevertheless takes pleasure in making money. what upsets me is not just how short the pleasure lasts, but more how little faith we can have in this institution we all so cherished: marriage. m]&SNz=  
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this is a close friend of mine. we went to school together, and we chased skirts together. (well, to be technically true, we were just allies for a mutual friend when he was competing with another guy for a girl we all knew. we were sort of a support group for the mutual friend.) o4WDh@d5S  
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he had a highschool sweetheart, the relationship broke when he came to the states. it was thier first love, and I guess both he and the girl cannot get over it, so a number of years later they hooked up again. I still remember when he sought my advice right before he went back to china to marry her. now they are on the verge of a divorce. 8{ I|$*nB  
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behind, even when both of them chose to continue a few years later, the first y
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indulgent mismatch might still exist and would not disolve by itself unless they 4<v&S2Yq  
both make a lot of the efforts to do the improvement.   Meet the right person at the cWm$;`Q#\  
right time and starts everything right, marriage is only successful in half. Marriage is x?<FJ"8"k  
both a commitment and a faith. But it is never too easy to keep.

30K to 10K　就SUCKS了，我那个都没词儿形容了。

这一猫哪儿去了？ 毕业了吗？   读傻了还读   青春燃烧在实验室的烧杯里   有些可惜！ MqMQtU9w  
科学界多一只猫 文学界少一个天才啊！

I am not a materialistic person, but like most of people living on this planet, nevertheless takes pleasure in making money. what upsets me is not just how short the pleasure lasts, but more how little faith we can have in this institution we all so cherished: marriage. %}T6]S)%u  
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this is a close friend of mine. we went to school together, and we chased skirts together. (well, to be technically true, we were just allies for a mutual friend when he was competing with another guy for a girl we all knew. we were sort of a support group for the mutual friend.) Xwtqi@zlE  
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he had a highschool sweetheart, the relationship broke when he came to the states. it was thier first love, and I guess both he and the girl cannot get over it, so a number of years later they hooked up again. I still remember when he sought my advice right before he went back to china to marry her. now they are on the verge of a divorce. ajpXL  
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On the surface it seems like a happy marriage. He works real hard, makes good money (more than enough to support a family), enjoys life (he's the only chinese friend I have that has a season pass for concerts in SF and enjoys naps there). she stayed home for a few years and recently started working out of boredom, but with little money. a lot has happened with thier marriage, but which marriage is a smooth saling? I just can't believe this is yet another marriage to be disolved. now my friend is worried about his marriage and his money. I can't devulge in details so I am sorry to disappoint if you are looking for a story.

是这篇吧 P93@;{c(  
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http://www.bachinese.com/forum/read.php?tid=5213&keyword=

想起来了，　这句话在湾坛最早是ＯＮＥ　ＣＡＴ说的，还有一篇特爽的文章佐证。 ch]29  
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ＤＩＶＥＲ啊，你是不是再说的多点啊，看来这后面应该有故事 B/C,.?Or  
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不知道老伍可不可以帮我们把一猫的原始贴翻出来，以资研究。