海藻的两种性爱关系-伙伴和依附
—— 看电视剧《蜗居》
来源:万维网读者->网墨文集->茉莉 作者:茉莉 2010年02月09日
在成为职业二奶之前,海藻曾一度在两个男人之间周旋。尽管电视剧《蜗居》有台词评价这个女孩的身材:「前平后板」,意思是她并不很漂亮,平凡如海中的藻类,但两个男人──从事IT业的男生小贝和政府官员宋思明,都钟情于这个青涩秀气的女孩。因此,海藻的双重性爱关系就成了《蜗居》在房价和腐败之外的另一个热门话题。海藻离开小贝投奔宋思明的过程,展示了当今中国的一个社会问题──男女关系从伙伴型到依附型的变异。饰演海藻的女演员李念在接受采访时,诚实地表示:如果让她选择,她也会选择宋思明。这就意味著,依附型的性爱关系已经被更多的中国白领丽人所接受。
雨中情愫:小贝式伙伴型性爱
小贝与海藻的情愫萌生于雨中。那一天,郭海藻上班途中遇雨,小贝举著伞走上去为她遮雨。后来二人相爱同居。因为想要攒钱买房,这对未婚小俩口过日子省吃俭用,海藻只穿便宜的衣服,望著霜淇淋咽口水捨不得买,小贝只能买一块钱的芦苇花送她做礼物。
那却是一段伙伴型爱情的美好记忆。虽然小贝无权无势无钱,但他是都市优秀男孩的典型。他有上进心,有开朗幽默的性格,对女朋友「亲爱的小猪猪」温柔体贴,呵护有加。然而,在伊甸园里过快乐日子的男女,终究经不起蛇的引诱。因为姐姐海萍的丈夫为买房的首付款借了高利贷,心急的海藻找小贝借钱,小贝却以「救急不救穷」为理由,表示只能拿出两万元。海藻找在公司应酬中结识的市长秘书宋思明,很容易就借到了六万元。从此,海藻陷入了那位中年男人编织的情网中。
又是一个雨天,海藻和宋思明在别墅里偷情。小贝冒著大雨跟踪他们,发现真相后如同五雷轰顶。但小贝拿毛巾堵著自己的嘴,哭著对海藻说「我已经爱你爱到了骨头里了。」而后,小贝几次发出撕肝裂肺的大吼,在年轻一代男性观众眼里,那是性资源被权贵阶层掠夺的奇耻大辱。为此有人在网上发出绝望的呼吁:「这是什么世道?请大叔把年轻女人还给我们年轻男人!」
电视剧的结尾是:宋思明东窗事发,遭车祸死去,海藻的腹中胎儿被宋太太踢至流产,子宫也被拿掉了。面色惨白的海藻被姐姐拉到外面散心,此时天上又下起雨来,令海藻忆起初次遇见小贝的绵绵雨景。那一切仿佛是远古时代纯洁无瑕的「失乐园」,已经不再复返。
弓箭、权力及二奶依附的本质
即使是不道德的爱情,也有它真实动人之处。《蜗居》中的贪官宋思明,就是一个少见的大情种。他成熟睿智、温文尔雅,出手阔绰,对海藻的爱也充满了浪漫情调,例如买梦游娃娃送海藻表达心意。身为市长秘书的宋思明几乎无所不能,不但能拿出大把票子,还能帮海藻姐妹解决工作问题,并把海萍丈夫苏淳从监狱里拯救出来。在获知自己大祸临头时,宋思明也先给海藻及胎儿留下生活费五百万元,并安排好他们的出国事宜,可谓有情有义。
宋思明对海藻的爱情并不鄙俗,并不仅仅是贪官对年轻女性肉体的贪恋。人生有一种空虚,要靠浪漫之爱来填补。瘦削的海藻看上去楚楚可怜,有一种弱不禁风的气质,有点像宋思明大学时代早夭的恋人,令宋思明忍不住要抚慰她,保护她。成熟男人的温情及性爱经验,令海藻感到很刺激。
于是,《蜗居》的观众尤其是一些女性观众,就像吃了迷魂药一般,成了二奶爱情的支持者。一时间,很多女网友表达对这个「坏男人」的倾慕,一些年轻女孩迫切希望遇上宋思明式的男人,即使是「当小三也值了」。
从男性统治的古希腊流传下来的性爱象徵,是一位手持弓箭的男神。这意味著,在历史悠久的「两性之争」中,男人是主动出击的一方,并且是公认的胜利者。中国儒家传统规范中的「夫为妻纲」,小妾即当今的二奶,完全是人身依附型的。
那么,宋思明征服海藻的弓箭是什么呢?除了个人魅力之外,具有决定性作用的,是他能化解各种难题的巨大神通。这种神通来自何方?──来自党给予他的职权。高干市长的秘书,往往拥有一种隐形权力。宋思明就利用那份权力侵佔公共利益,牟取巨大私利。因此海藻购物后说:「花的大爷您的银子,一点也不心疼。」宋思明本人更不心疼金钱,他只用金钱点燃两人的爱情。
在被金钱点燃的爱情中,女性的处境又如何呢?海藻过上了舒适的生活,名车豪宅,应有尽有。但不管生活的外表多么华丽,其中的本质是依附性的。如同进了金丝笼的小鸟,二奶海藻不再需要工作,她只需给宋思明提供一个婚姻之外的温柔乡,提供肉体的奉献,并准备为他生儿育女。房子里装饰著高雅的义大利傢俱,海藻却体会到难言的寂寞,失去社会性和独立性的她,只有无休止地等待,等待宋思明在应付官场与家中老婆孩子之余,偶尔来爱巢与她偷欢。
女人的美丽在于生活意义的创造
女性主义认为,男权社会中一个不成文的成功标志,是对女人的拥有。当今中国官场,二奶的存在已经是一个普遍的现象。在自称是男女平等的「社会主义」国家,封建时代依附型两性关系肆无忌惮地捲土重来,标志著中国道德沦丧时代已经成型。那么,是什么诱使大批女性捨弃与男性平等的伙伴型关系,成为丧失独立尊严的二奶呢?《蜗居》观众的解释是,畸形的高房价击碎了年轻一代女性的理想,侵蚀了她们的精神,使她们屈服于物质需要,被迫改变自己的人生价值观。
那么,房价为什么会高不可攀呢?《蜗居》一剧清楚地描绘了官商勾结、哄抬房价的真相。该剧中有两位深具人生阅历的老太太,一位是遭暴力拆迁致死的李老太,她曾对宋思明辛辣地讥刺说:「只有公务员出门才不带钱包。」另一位是海藻的母亲──一位退休教师,她气愤地对女儿说:「他(指宋思明)给你的那点方便,本来就属于你的。」隻言片语,深刻地揭露了当今官府对平民的无情掠夺。
笔者曾向多位瑞典女友询问:在男女关系中,是否会考虑金钱和房子的因素?得到的回答一律是否定的。当然西方也有在爱情上搞「唯物主义」的女人,只是笔者没有碰到而已,但甘为金钱做二奶的人,在西方确实是很难见到。从总体上看,西方女性的独立意识已经深入骨髓,民主社会里有各项制度保障男女平等。女人的美丽在于对自己生活意义的创造,只有独立而自尊的女人,才会有高贵、平等和快乐的两性关系。
二○一○年一月
原载《开放》杂志2010年2月号
作者简介:本名莫莉花,湖南邵陽人,現居瑞典,任教師。出版個人專集《人權之旅》、《山麓那邊是西藏》、《瑞典森林散步》。
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