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父母在，不能游

 

父母在，不能游

我回国旅游的计划，原本已经是树上红艳艳的果实，只等我伸手采摘。已经与各处的朋友都打好招呼：“一起忽悠去啊！”还在网上彻夜不眠地查找既便宜又方便的宾馆，一切。都如此接近，仿佛已经闻到西湖的鱼香和黄山的晨雾。

晚上，给婆婆一个电话。所有的热情由颠峰降到谷底。一颗期待的心陡然变得焦虑。回国于我，不再是件轻松愉快享受的事，却是探病。

婆婆轻描淡写地说：“你爸爸最近身体不太好，查出心跳过缓，一分钟才40几下。医生让他住院观察。怀疑是冠心病。”语气里没有焦虑，没有不安，但我知道，婆婆只是不想让我担心。

我这里催促：“爸爸去住院了没有？”婆婆说：“你爸暂时不肯，说没什么感觉啊！还有两个星期的课就结束了，等放了暑假再去。”我当机立断地说：“不行！现在就去。人重要还是学生重要？每个人都为工作鞠躬尽瘁，怎么都不明白身体是工作之本？没了身体，还谈什么教学？熬完这两个礼拜，还有以后呢？”

婆婆说：“是的，你爸爸自己也有些担心。他们系的王老师，年纪轻轻的，才50多岁，在球场打着打着球，觉得心脏不舒服，喘不上气，还没到医院就没了。很快。你爸最近也担心自己，老提醒我万一听不见他打呼噜，就摸摸他的鼻息。”

我一听，眼泪都要掉下来了。感觉自己还年轻，父母还年轻，死亡，这样一个严肃的话题，仿佛在这家转，那家转，却永远不会降临到自己的身上。最近一向，总听到不妙的消息，一个关系很近的朋友的父亲得了肺癌，而另一位的母亲刚刚过世。

我印象里，父母应该是万寿无疆的，到我都白发了，父母还应该是耳不聋眼不花，硬朗着跟孙子游戏。忽然听到公公身体有恙，还要住院，心里有些打鼓。

婆婆说：“你爸爸自己不怕呀，还跟我开玩笑，说一想到自己撒手西去，老婆跟人卷铺盖跑了，就难受。我还回答他说，我凭什么卷铺盖呀，你都撒手走了，还不许我招个回来？我这里有房子有票子，我才不走呢！”人大约到了一定的岁数，就可以很轻松地将一些严肃话题拿来开心，也许，对于他们，已经认命。孩子都长大了，老人都送终了，一生的卖力演出可以在以后的任何一幕上谢幕，微笑着，挥手而去。

我心里跟刀扎一样疼痛，呵斥婆婆说：“乱讲，我看你们两个太闲了！拿这种事情开玩笑！以后不许讲这样的话。提都不要提！你们还保证说替我养儿子到上大学呢！现在什么力都不出就想逃避？”

又斩钉截铁地跟婆婆说：“这次回国，我爸不要陪我们去黄山了，我们哪里都不去，看完上海爸爸妈妈，就回合肥看你们。你先叫爸爸住上院。”公公思子女心切，当初听说我们回国以后要环游小半个华东的时候，就提出要与我们同行。先生不愿意小夫妻出门拖俩老油瓶，几次私下跟我反对，都被我打回去，不许他跟父母提。公公去黄山不下20次了，这次还要坚持陪我们去爬，还要凑出几天的假期，不容易。他的心意我懂，每年难得见孩子一面，多看一天是一天。

婆婆马上反对：“哎呀胡扯！你们都计划出去玩那么长时间了，哪能叫我们给破坏了。你们按计划去。你爸爸不要紧的，到时候回来住两天就行。”

我跟婆婆说：“我说了算，不要争了。对我而言，到哪里都一样，玩与不玩没区别，去旅游也不好，又花钱又伤体力，回家住着还舒服，有人管吃管喝，比外头强多了。就这样吧！”挂断电话。久久坐在椅子上不说一句话。

先生走过来问：“发什么呆？”

我说：“爸爸心脏不好，要住院。我看，我们这次不要去玩了，就上海合肥呆呆算了。”先生说，有那么严重？“不管严不严重，不可掉以轻心。父母年纪大了，在我们还没来得及察觉的时候。”

先生一脸内疚。他欠我一个旅游很久，一头是白发苍苍的父母，一头是已经从少女变成少妇的老婆。

“没关系，黄山西湖，应该是立此永存的。大约等我们成老头老太的时候都还会在那里。总有一天会去的。”

“三峡都没了。。。。。。”老公的话，我懂。他告诉我三峡很美，当年他的一叶轻舟从峰谷间穿过的时候，就想带我某日一起同去。而那时，我正忙着与理不清的业务奋斗，总在沿海的城市穿梭。

我在三十岁上，开始面对许多棘手的人生课题，而这些我还没有准备好。比如，我该做妈妈了，比如，老人们的身体在衰退，比如，我要扛起家庭的责任，对社会尽责，对父母尽孝。

到了这个年纪，我要勇敢地肩负。

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